02-01-2015, 08:46 PM
My ex wife was indian. India is a horribly horribly stratified and cruel society. She was an abuse victim, as were her parents, and their parents, and their parents.... on and on, back through time. It just seems normal to them.
I know Ive been spared a lot of intergeneration crap because the link was broken. My dad was raised by a single mother in the 40 and 50's, and was not abused but was largely neglected. Sometimes neglect isn't bad when "being raised properly" is actually a form abuse. He has horror stories of how his friends were abused by violent alcoholic parents. He had none of that. he was on his own. So he had no fears to instill in me, and I am largely fearless, as a result.
I know Ive been spared a lot of intergeneration crap because the link was broken. My dad was raised by a single mother in the 40 and 50's, and was not abused but was largely neglected. Sometimes neglect isn't bad when "being raised properly" is actually a form abuse. He has horror stories of how his friends were abused by violent alcoholic parents. He had none of that. he was on his own. So he had no fears to instill in me, and I am largely fearless, as a result.